Daily Reflection: 01 Sept 2024

Note: The message of this post is about more than veiling and modest dress.

I used to follow this online Catholic group that was all about dressing modestly.

Oftentimes, ladies would show what they were wearing to church and, to be honest, it became a bit comical. In an effort to not show their womanly shape or their ankles or anything, some of them would layer so much, they ended up looking like the little brother in “A Christmas Story” when the mom shoves him into the bulky snowsuit.

They were strict adherents to veiling, which is fine. I’m not anti-veiling. But, what sealed the deal for me leaving the group was when one lady took a picture of herself going into church with a opened fast-food napkin on her head because she forgot her veil at home.

Because she thought this was a rule that had to be enforced, she did something completely undignified and ridiculous. Then in the comments, other ladies were encouraging her “creative use” of keeping the rule.

I was done.

As Catholics, we take a lot of heat for having too many rules. The truth is, though, the Church doesn’t.

There are only six Church Commandments that we are required to follow outside of the 10 Commandments, and obviously, the Two

Greatest Commandments given to us by Christ.

1. Attend Mass on Sunday and Holy Days of Obligation.

2. To fast and abstain on the days appointed.

3. To confess our sins once a year.

4. To receive Holy Communion during the Easter time.

5. To contribute to the support of the church. (There is no set amount)

6. Observe the Church’s marriage laws.

That’s it, however this is not a pitch for doing the bare minimum.

There are many other practices that the Church allows for or encourages, but they are just that—practices. There are also somethings that the Church allows for that you may not like and the good news is, is that you are free to do it in the way you would prefer.

If you demand or force people to follow “rules” that the Church does not recognize as binding, you are being like the Pharisees and laying heavy burdens on people. You have set yourself up as the authority and disregarded the teaching authority of the Magisterium of the Church.  

We don’t want to be so whetted to enforcing what we want to be rules that we come off us joyless, burdensome, or ridiculous, Catholic Pilgrims.

Live the Faith boldly and travel well this Sunday.

*St. John the Baptist Catholic Church, Napa, California

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